When somebody betrays you or lies to you it’s hard to trust them again (deceitful people are one my pet peeves). I haven’t lived as long as many of the people I aspire to be, but I have learned that holding a grudge hurts both parties.
One conflict I’ve had in college is with a young woman who seemed perfect for about five minutes. The more time I spent with her doing schoolwork and other various projects, I saw her true colors. When I realized how fake she was, I couldn’t stand to deal with her anymore. Unfortunately, the feeling was mutual and many friendships that could’ve been were tainted by our hatred. Slowly but surely I forgave her for being one of my least favored people on Earth. Luckily, we haven’t had any more contact, but I know if we had worked together instead of fighting, we could’ve made some monumental changes.
If one day in the future – say in the career after college – I wouldn’t hold anything against her. She is a human and I’m not a fan of holding anyone down. Nor am I a fan or digging up things from the past as ammo for the present.
Similar to letting a simple word trigger the She- Hulk in all the wrong ways, I hate letting one person trigger emotions that may inhibit my productivity. One of my missions in life is love. It seemed easy at first when I thought of family, friends, and even strangers. Then I began to think of those who wanted to take advantage of loved ones or myself. The key to loving those who deserve various punishments in this world is forgiving them – the second hardest part. The hardest part is forgetting. I mean, if somebody you thought of as your best friend stole your credit card and went on a shopping spree…
How could you trust them again?
How could things ever be the same?
How could you forget all the bs you had to go through to recover your credit card only to find your so called friend to blame?
How could you trust them again?
How could things ever be the same?
How could you forget all the bs you had to go through to recover your credit card only to find your so called friend to blame?
Honestly it takes a strong heart to completely forgive and forget. I’m still trying to perfect my technique, but I do know it will take me a long way in world full of frustrating people.